How I met Elysse Hamelin And Kristin

Approximately two months ago Lauren, a dear friend of mine introduce her friends Elysse and Kristin to me and my roommate Ari. Obviously this was not a romantic introduction, but it didn’t have to be because I was not attracted to either one of them. If my memory serves me correctly, the night we all met was a rather enjoyable Saturday night. Lauren, Kristin, Elysse, Ari and I hired a taxi and were off to experience LA’s nightlife on Sunset Blvd.

The night was nearing to an end, and to be quite honest I didn’t form an opinion one way or another about Elysse and Kristin. We did however exchange numbers that night because they were new to Los Angeles and made it pretty clear that they wanted to meet new people. I forgot to mention that it just so happened that these new girls lived two blocks up the street from my apartment. Therefore, as we were about to leave the last bar I thought to myself “why not make the effort and extend the hand of friendship to these girls who were my neighbors” A new relationship was formed and we all went home after having a really nice evening.

I decided to get to know Kristin first. There was no particular reason why I did this except for the fact that I talked to her for a longer duration during our first meeting.  I suppose one could argue that making new friends requires giving something of yourself to the other person. Usually it’s making an effort to help a person out by being understanding, providing advice or doing something for them which they could not do for themselves. I guess with Kristin it started off as helping her acquire a parking permit. She didn’t really know where to go, and since I had previously gone to the parking ticket office I decided to help her out.

To me, friendship is never about money or the number of times a person did something for you vs. how many times you did it back. Friendship is a lot of things, but mostly it’s about mutual respect, trust and all the good stuff that comes with it. With Kristin it quickly became a question of how much money she could save by being my friend. A great example would be having me drive everywhere she wanted to go without ever offering to drive. Sometimes it would be the gym and other times it would be getting a bite to eat. At first, I didn’t think to much of it, but I later learned that she didn’t want to spend her “gas money” so I guess I helped her save $3.00.00 whatever it’s not the money to me it’s the principal. The second and perhaps final behavior trait made me not want to ever spend time with her again. I like to call it the “disappearing wallet” let me…. Kristin had a bad habit of saying “opps I forgot my wallet” and guess who had to pay for her? Yes indeed it was I who had to lay out the money almost every time. I want you to understand something, I don’t mind paying for friends every now and then, but trust me when I tell you that this would happened on a consistent basis! In fact after a few weeks Kristin expected me or my roommate to buy her drinks when we went out to bars. Can you know see why I lost respect and a sense of friendship with Kristin? To top it off it was rare where she ever said “Thank You” but that is something I would also discover in Elysse later on.

I don’t want to spend time writing about Kristin.  However, you will see later that Elysse Hamlin is not very different. However,  it did take me a longer time find  out who she really was. The last thing I want to say about Kristin is she probably somewhere inside of herself has a good heart, but for me, it was not worth discovering.

In my next post I will start to write about how Elysse and I developed as friends.

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